Sister love marriage
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Asalam alaikum Dear brother.May Allah Bless you for guiding muslims to the true path of Islam.I have been a constant visitor to this site and Alhamdulillah,it has helped me in alot of ways in understanding Islam.Alhamdulillah,my faith has become much more stronger and am very happy and proud of this change since then and am constantly striving to increase my iman in every way.Thankyou very much and may Allah be pleased with you.Brother,i have been in a constant dilemma,ever since i have joined my university and have seen a boy.i like him very much but Alhamdulillah havent done anything which is against Islam.I do not speak to him over the phone,net or meet him in person.but he seems to be in my thoughts all the time.i have tried forgetting about him in all possible ways,prayed duas but nothing seems to work.I used to speak to him over the net before,but not anymore.and ever since i have come to know him as a person,i have started to like him even more.i know this has been a sin on my part,and i seek forgiveness from Allah.but sometimes i feel..all this has happened for a reason,if I was not meant to like him,it jus wouldnt have happened.After all it is Allah who puts feelings of liking someone in our hearts.I just dont know what to do in order to forget him.Ma`shallah,he is a God fearing Muslim too..n understands we shouldnt take anything further from where it is..i accept it completely as i know it would be a sin for us to do anything against the teachings of Islam.Brother, i also feel one reason he avoids talking to me anymore is because we come from different castes.He is a sunni and i am a bohra..though i no more believe in these so called castes evr since i came across u`re site.n believe in the one and only muslim Ummah.Brother,i do not want to lose him,for reasons like this,if this has to be one of them.I am losing time,as we both are close to finishing our medical studies and if i do not make my intentions clear to him,i may lose him..and i dont want this to be one of the reasons.He has told me in the past,that things will never be possible for us,im not sure of the reason y he has told me this,but if it is based on our castes.i would like to make it very clear to him that i no longer believe in the so called cast systems and would like to live my life only as a muslim and nothing else.Do u think it would be wise to meet him and let him know of my intentions before it gets too late,or leave things where they are..as we dont talk anymore as well.Plz guide me brother,this constantly bothers me.Plz reply as soon as possible.Thankyou very much again.
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Dear and Beloved Sister in Islam, it is only natural and in accordance with the fitrah bestowed by Allah Subhanah that a man and woman are naturally attracted to each other. To like or be attracted towards someone is not a sin, but what one does after this attraction will determine whether the act is a sin or not. If one submits to this natural physical attraction of nature and transgresses the boundaries of Allah Subhanah, it would indeed be a grave sin in the sight of the Lord. It is indeed commendable and noble, and a sign of your faith and belief in Allah and the Last Day, that in spite of your feelings towards the man you have controlled your nafs, feared Allah Subhanah, and striven to conduct your affairs within the boundaries of the Majestic Lord. Allah Subhanah indeed loves His believing slaves who fear Him and strive to live within His boundaries, and He has promised an un-ending reward for such of His righteous slaves.
Dear and Beloved Sister in Islam, Allah has honored the believers to rise above the petty differences of sects and creeds, and guided them to be One Ummah united in His Remembrance and Worship. Rather than identify themselves by the man-made sects like Shias, or Sunnis, or Bohris, or Ismailies, etc., the believers who truly believe in Allah and the Last Day are honored to be recognized and identified by the name Allah Subhanah has chosen for them; ie. muslims.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 23 Surah Al-Muminun verse 52: And this Ummah of yours is one Ummah, and I (Allah) am your Lord, so fear Me alone!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 22 Surah Hajj verse 77-78: O you who have believed, do rukooh (bow down) and do sajdah (prostration), and worship your Lord Allah Alone, and do righteous deeds: it may be that you attain true success! Exert your utmost for the cause of Allah, as one should. He has chosen you for His service, and has not laid on you any hardship in your religion. Therefore, be steadfast in the religion of your father Abraham. Allah had named you muslims before this, and has named you (muslims) in this Quran also, so that the Messenger may be a witness in regard to you, and you may be witnesses in regard to the rest of mankind.
Your Question: Do u think it would be wise to meet him and let him know of my intentions before it gets too late,or leave things where they are..
Dear and Beloved Sister in Islam, there is absolutely no harm if you could send him a message and let him know your exact intentions and feelings; and if his feelings towards you are the same, invite him to do the righteous and honorable thing and approach your parents/guardians and seek your hand in marriage. Dear and Beloved Sister, whatever you do, fear Allah Subhanah and never let your emotions or feelings overcome your best judgment in your adherence to the boundaries of Allah Subhanah.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,