Is it sin not to marry?
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's
Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
To whom it may concern,
assalamu alaykum
i am 24 years old and am currently recieving proposals of marriage
which my parents would like me to consider. This makes me feel extremely
uncomfortable as im not sure if i can ever love again. i was in love with
someone i met at university for four years my mother disapproved as he was shia
and im sunni. he is married now, and i realise i should get on with my life but
im still finding it difficult.
my question is is it permissible for a girl not to marry. as im
not sure i could make anyone happy
thankyou
look forward to your reply
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Answer:
In the
name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness.
Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray,
none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no
person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai, nobody!) worthy of
worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His
slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
To get
married is not an obligatory act, but rather considered an extremely preferred
Sunnah in Islam; and if one does not wish to get married for any reason, there
is no sin upon him/her.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3096 Narrated
by Anas ibn Malik
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "When a man marries he has
fulfilled half of the religion; so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining
half."
Beloved
sister in Islam, although you have not specifically asked us to comment on your
situation of getting married, as your well-wishers and brothers in Islam it is
our duty to inform you that the condition that your heart feels at this moment
might not be permanent that it would not be possible for you to love someone
else. Time is a great healer indeed, and
with time the conditions will change and so will the thought that you have
today: that it would not be possible for you to love someone else or make him
happy.
Instead
of making up your mind never to marry because of one past experience, it would
be better and more righteous to keep your options open and give the wound some
time to heal, and seek to look forward to the rest of your life. Keep your full Trust in Allah Subhanah and
know for sure that He is well aware of the exact condition of each of His
believing slaves. Remain constant in His
remembrance and obedience, and in all humility and hope beseech him to provide
for you what is best for your deen, for your life in this world, and for your
life in the Hereafter.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3090 Narrated
by Abu Hurayrah
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, 'When someone with whose religion
and character you are satisfied asks for your daughter in marriage, accede to
his request. If you do not do so, there will be temptation on Earth, and
extensive corruption.'
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.27 Narrated
by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "A woman is married for four
things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So
you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."
If one
trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of
Allah and His Messenger (saws), he can
be assured of never ever being misled;
but if one believes, obeys and
follows any other guidance, other than
that of Allah and His Messenger (saws),
he can be assured of being led astray.
Whatever
written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance,
and whatever of error is of me. Allah
Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan