Eat chocolates from friend
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i have a small question...i have a friend whom i like very much...both of us were best frds and we loved each other...but thn since we thot it wont work out between us...i mean we cant get married n all...we have decided to stop...he has left the country now...it was me who told him it wont work bcos of my family situations...i dint want my family to lose face in front of my other relatives...so we decided we have to stop...we told ourselves that if we really loved each other we would meet in the next world....
he said ok...he has left the country and we havent talked to each other for a few days..we decided we will stop it totally very soon since it is not permitted in islam...
my question is before he left india...he gave me a few chocolates and some gifts...id also like to tell u this...we are not the type who go around the city together...we used to chat on the net and then used to talk on the fone...ive seen him in a few shops and have talked to him directly only 2 or 3 times so far...that too i hardly looked at his face...we were in a public shop and never have we sat together privatey and had a chat.....anyways i felt it was rong and we are deciding to call it quits very soon...
my question is...can i eat the chocolates he gave me?...since i cant give it to any1...either i have to eat it or throw it away...is it ok if i finish off the chocolates he gave me or shud i throw it away?...it is not possible for me to give it to any1 as it would arise questions and i would have to lie to cover up..
another thing is my parents fixed me up with a guy whn i was hardly 14 yrs old...i still dunno anything bt the person whom im going to marry...meanwhile i met this guy n liked him a lot...i want to tell my parents bt him and i know if i stand on 1 foot...theyll agree to the wedding...but thn they will have to lose face to my other relatives and i dont want that to happen to my parents,,,i love them n respect them a lot..that is the main reason i tol him to wait for me mayb in the next world insiha allah....if i go to heaven....we have decided to do good deeds ...be a good person and then wait and c wat is waiting for us in the future...everything said n done...i know i have done a sin...since it is not permitted to talk to a man personally...what do i do now?...he has nt touched me intentionally even once...we havent even sat next to each other...but we understood each other really well...circumstances prevent us
from getting married...
what shud i do now....i will ask sorry for my sins to allah...but i dont know really how sorry i am...i am sorry that i sinned...but i am happy that i met this person...bcos both of us have benefitted from knowing each other...he started praying regularly only after i told him abt the consequences of not praying...and i started doing extra prayers...i started respecting my parents more and stopped talking bac to them...after i saw him respect his parents...he was in a bad state whn i met him...very depressed and about to do something really bad...i gave him confidence and he is prettyy strong now...so we have mutually helped each other become a better person...its been 2.5 yrs since i know him...we both respect each other and
love each other a lot...he is my best frd...
i am going to stop talking to him?...and i am going to ask sorry allah...but other than that what shud i do?...have i committed a grave sin....should i throw away the chocolates he gave me??....
will i meet him in my next life...i am a very staunch believer in the hereafter...
pls advice me...i am very confused
pls send me a mail to my id and let the question be personal...and pls pls do not copy n paste any other answer uve already sent some1...id like to have a direct answer,,,
thank u very much brother for this forum...
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Dear and beloved sister in Islam, may Allah Subhanah increase your faith in Him and the Last Day, and keep you always in His Protection and Mercy. May Allah Subhanah increase your love and your respect for your parents; and if you have given this sacrifice for the honor and good will of your parents, rest assured that Allah Subhanah is well aware of the condition of each of His believing slaves and He is sufficient to reward His believers from His unending Grace and Mercy.
Allah Subhanah has kept a natural attraction between the two people who are non-mehram to each other, and when one meets another and gets to know the person, it is only natural that one starts to like the other.
In light of the circumstances narrated by you, it is obvious that both of you like each other and wish to get married, but due to family circumstances and conditions, one or both of you think it might not be possible. Under the circumstances you basically are left with three righteous options:
Tell the boy you like to talk to his parents or guardians and approach your parents seeking your hand in marriage. Or alternatively, you could look for an opportune moment and talk to your parents about it. These would be the absolute righteous thing to do.
Since the boy has left the country, you could condition yourself to the fact that he might not return to marry you; especially since you have already told him its not possible.
Or you could leave the past as the past, and look forward to the future that Allah Subhanah has Decreed for you. Keep your full trust in Allah Subhanah, and be constant in your remembrance of Allah Subhanah and implore Him to guide you and bestow upon you what is best for you for your life in this world and your Hereafter.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 216 (part): But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you, and that ye love a thing which is bad for you. But Allah Knows and ye know not.
Your Question: can i eat the chocolates he gave me?
Regarding the chocolates he gave you, you can very well accept it as a gift and consume them.
Your Question: will i meet him in my next life...i am a very staunch believer in the hereafter...
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 50 Surah Qaaf verse 35: There
they (the men and women of
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqan verses 15-16: Ask them, Is this (the Fire) better, or the everlasting gardens which have been promised to the God-fearing, righteous people (men and women)?. That will be the recompense of their good deeds and the final destination of their journey, wherein, they will get everything they desire, and wherein they will dwell forever. This is a promise which your Lord has taken upon Himself to fulfill.
sister in Islam, Allah Subhanah has promised that He will give the fortunate
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