Sin zina repentance
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's
Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.(May Allah`s Peace,
Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
i am in love with a man and have physical relationship with him. i
have now realized my mistaked and asked forgiveness from Allah, i have also
promised Allah never to repaet the sin. i need to know whether it is essential
for me to marry the person i have had physical relationship with. Does Islam
forbids me to marry anyone else or rather not marry anyone atll. please help me
because i am in the state of mind where i donot want to marry this person
anymore. tell me if that too is a sin.
Thanks
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Answer:
In the
name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness.
Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray,
none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no
person, no grave, no prophet, no imam,
no dai, nobody!) worthy of
worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His
slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Whatever
deeds one might have done, if one turns
to Allah Subhanah in sincere Taubah and seeks forgiveness, Allah Subhanah has promised in the Holy Quran
that He will forgive all the sins of such a believer, even if one has committed the gravest sin of
all: ‘Shirk’! Not only that, our Lord is so Merciful and Generous, that He not only will forgive the sins of the
believer, He will change his evil deeds
done into good deeds!
The
conditions or ways to seek sincere Taubah or Repentance from the Merciful Lord
are:
One is
aware that he has sinned, and feels
sorry and ashamed at his sin.
Makes a
solemn covenant and promise with Allah that he will not repeat his sin again.
Turns to
Allah and seeks forgiveness, before he
has met with his appointment of death.
Is a
believer and does righteous good deeds thereafter.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54: (O
Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged their own souls….Do not despair
of Allah’s Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before
the scourge overtakes you; for then you
may get no help from anywhere.”
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse
135-136: Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong
their own soul by the commission of a sin,
remember Allah instantly, and ask
for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who,
but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly
persist in the wrongs they did. These
will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah,
and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do
good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqaan verses 63-71: The
(true) servants of the Merciful are those who walk humbly on the earth. When the ignorant people behave insolently
towards them, they say, “Peace to
you”; (And those) who pass their nights
in prostrating themselves and standing before their Lord and pray, “O our
Lord, save us from the torment of Hell, for its torment is killing! It is an evil abode, and an evil resting place”. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly,
but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but
Allah Alone, nor kill a soul
unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery… He who does this shall
be punished for his sin, and his torment
shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection,
and he shall abide in a state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER
THOSE SINS), AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE
RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then, Allah will change his evil deeds into good
deeds, and He is very Forgiving and
Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous
deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly
should!
Your
Question: i need to know whether it is essential for me to marry the person i
have had physical relationship with.
If you
have made sincere Taubah and sought repentance from the Merciful Lord for your
error done in ignorance; it is expected that you will find your Lord
Oft-Returning, Most Merciful. There is
nothing in Shariah that states that one who has had a physical relationship is
obliged to marry only that person. After
seeking repentance from the Merciful Lord, you may choose to marry anyone you
wish.
Your
Question: Does Islam forbids me to marry anyone else or rather not marry anyone
atll
Islam
does not forbid you to marry any eligible man of your choice; nor does Islam
restrict you never to marry again after one has committed the abomination of
‘zina’. Allah and His Messenger (saws)
have guided the believers who have wronged their own souls by the commission of
a sin, to seek sincere repentance from the Merciful Lord and amend their
conduct thereafter; it is expected that the Merciful Lord will wipe out the
evil deeds from our Book of Records.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54: When
those come to you who believe in Our Signs,
say: "Peace be on you! Your
Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in
ignorance, and thereafter repented and
amended (his conduct), Lo! He is
Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Hadith Qudsi 34
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said that Allah Subhanah, The High
and Exalted He is says: ‘O son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and ask of
Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O son of Adam, were your sins to reach the
clouds of the sky and were you then to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive
you. O son of Adam, were you to come to
Me with sins nearly as great as the earth and were you then to face Me,
ascribing no partner to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great as
it.’
Your
Question: please help me because i am in the state of mind where i donot want
to marry this person anymore. tell me if that too is a sin.
Dear and
beloved sister in Islam, if you do not wish to marry the person with whom you
committed the sin of ‘zina’ in ignorance, there is absolutely no harm. After you have sought your repentance from
the Lord Most Merciful and amended your conduct; you may marry anyone according
of your choice.
Whatever
written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance,
and whatever of error is of me. Allah
Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,
Burhan