Get job to get married
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
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Dear Brother(s), As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. Firstly, Jazak Allah Kheir
for your services, may Allah Taa'ala
give us all the knowledge, tawfiq and
courage to practice this deen in the way it
should be practiced. I can imagine that it can get aggravating for you to continue answering
similar questions regarding marriage and
it's appropriate-ness, may Allah Taa'ala
truly reward you for your Sa'abr and
increase you in reward.
I too have a question regarding marriage. Age and maturity sometimes are not correllated, and as a person gets older and older he/she may still be the same person that they were (let's say) 4 or even 6 years ago (in terms of maturity.) My question is this: The American economy has been in a slump and this has caused fewer and fewer job opportunities, even for those who are freshly graduating from colleges. If a Muslim person had intended to get married after finishing his/her undergrad. but is having difficulty finding the appropriate work (for sustaining him/her spouse), what is the correct adab (manner) taught by the Prophet (SAW) in this particular situation? Should the person still get married and if they do, how would they sustain each other? Or should they leave their marriage plans until a job oppportunity arises? What if this person pursued graduate studies? What would be the proper adab (manner) then? Should this person get married or wait until he/she has completed his/her degree?
Jazak Allah Kheir for your patience with this question brother(s) and may Allah Taa'ala bless us all and have mercy on us. As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh
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Get job to get married
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Beloved and dear Brother in Islam, if one fears that one would not be able to control his chastity and his natural physical desires and live within the boundaries of Allah Subhanah; it would be best for him to get married first and then continue his education.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.4 Narrated by Abdullah
We were with the Prophet (saws) while we were young and had no wealth whatever. So Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "O young people! Whoever among you can marry, should marry, because it helps him lower his gaze and guard his modesty (i.e. his private parts from committing illegal sexual intercourse etc.), and whoever is not able to marry, should fast, as fasting diminishes his sexual power."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3096 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "When a man marries he has fulfilled half of the deen; so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half."
Your Question: Should the person still get married and if they do, how would they sustain each other? Or should they leave their marriage plans until a job oppportunity arises?
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Nur verses 32-33: Marry between the single man and women among you, and between your slave men and slave women who are righteous. If they are indigent, Allah will provide means for them out of His Bounty. Allah has boundless resources, and He is The All Knowing. And those who cannot find the means for marriage, they should keep themselves chaste till Allah provides them with means out of His Bounty.
The guidance of Allah Subhanah regarding marriage is that one should not unnecessarily delay his/her marriage. In fact, if one is indigent, he should seek to marry as soon as possible, for Allah Subhanah has promised that He will provide them and help them from of His Unlimited Bounty!
Abu Hurairah reported that the Prophet (saws) said: "Three persons have the right to be helped by Allah:
the warrior (ghazi) who fights for Allah, the contracted slave who longs to buy his freedom,
and one who wishes to get married for the sake of chastity."
Related by Ahmad.
Beloved and dear Brother in Islam, if one assumes that man is the sustainer of man, or man is the sustainer of himself, then he will always be indecisive and hesitant in his choosing to do the right thing. But when one realizes, comprehends, believes and trusts that it is Allah Subhanah Alone Who is the Sustainer of everyone in creation, he will never hesitate to do good righteous deeds.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,