Conditions for a second marriage
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
For a peron who is married to a young girl who has nothing wrong with her, is it permitted for him to marry again if he wishes to, for no reason at all other than he was in love with this other girl before his marriage? what are the conditions that he should fulfill in order to get involved in a second marriage?
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The one and only restriction that Islam puts on a person who wants to practice polygamy is justice! Justice and equality in the time he spends with each of them, on the amount he spends on each of them, on the gifts he gives to each of them, etc.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse3: If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then (marry) only one.
Other than justice, Allah has put no other restrictions like the first wife not being able to bear a child, or the man has to take the permission of the first wife, etc.
There can be one of many reasons a person may choose to taken a second wife; but whatever the reason, the condition that Allah Subhanah has laid on him is that he should deal with justice and equality between his wives.
Unfortunately, some people, who do not fear Allah and His Accounting, have misused this liberty when they marry a second wife, giving her all the attention; and discard the first wife and pay no attention to her! The Messenger of Allah (saws) warned that such people will be brought forward on the Day of Judgement in such a state that one of their sides will be hanging!
Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2128 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
The Prophet (saws) said: When a man has two wives and he is inclined to one of them, he will come on the Day of Resurrection with a side hanging down.
Islam has recognized that man is created polygamous by nature, and has thus allowed the man a legal and honorable way to practice polygamy; and has commanded the believers to honor and treat each of his wives equally and with justice.
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Your Brother in Islam,