Can one break relations more than 3 days?
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Salam Brother in islam, may Allah help you in your good way of helping the muslim community. I have two questions:
1- I had a friend of mine, she was chretien. She asked me if I want to go out with her and I said I am muslim I can't then later she asked me if I can marry her; I said I can't because of my family. I discuss with her about islam and she became muslim. But she said she won't change the way she dresses and she does not cover her hair and has boyfriend. But she prayes once in a while. Again she asked me if I can marry her. I said no I can't. She kept asking again and again. Lately she stopped talking to me and started going out with a jewish guy. I dont know if she knows that in islam one can't get mad to another for more than 3 days. What am I supposed to do? She gave me the feeling that she became muslin to get marry to me(I am not sure, Allahou knows).
2- My second question; we as muslims, are we supposed to pry God so that He is going do bad thing to someone else, let's say the enenmy of Islam?
Salam is the best end and I am waiting for your answer.
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Your Question: I dont know if she knows that in islam one can't get mad to another for more than 3 days. What am I supposed to do?
Sahih Al-Bukhari HadithHadith 8.91 Narrated byAnas bin Malik
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "Do not hate one another, and do not be jealous of one another, and do not desert each other, and O, Allah's worshipers! Be brothers. Lo! It is not permissible for any Muslim to desert (not talk to) his brother (Muslim) for more than three days."
Beloved brother in Islam, the command of the Messenger of Allah (saws) where it is impermissible for a muslim to desert or not talk to his brother muslim for more than three days, is specific to the believing brothers to their believing brothers, and the believing sisters to their believing sisters.
Allah Subhanah has declared it impermissible for the believers to keep or develop illicit relations with a non-mehram member of the opposite sex; thus it would not be permissible for you to develop this relationship.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5: Likewise you are permitted to marry believing chaste women, and chaste women from among the People of the Book (Jews and Christians), provided that you give them their due mahr and desire chastity; not lewdness, nor sected intrigues.
Your Question: My second question; we as muslims, are we supposed to pry God so that He is going do bad thing to someone else, let's say the enenmy of Islam?
The believers are sincere well-wishers of all human beings, muslims and non-muslims alike, as they are their brothers in humanity. It would not be appropriate for a person who believes to invoke the curse of Allah Subhanah on all the disbelievers; but it would be considered righteousness for a believer to pray to Allah Subhanah to guide them to the Truth of Al-Islam.
The believers are permitted to invoke the curse of Allah Subhanah on those disbelievers who are staunch enemies to Al-Islam and the muslims, and who are foremost in waging, or instigating others in waging war against the believers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 60 Surah Mumtahana verses 8-9:
8 Allah forbids you not with regard to those who fight you not for (your) Faith, nor drive you out of your homes, from dealing kindly and justly with them: for Allah loveth those who are just.
9 Allah only forbids you with regard to those who fight you for (your) Faith and drive you out of your homes, and support (others) in driving you out; from turning to them (for friendship and protection). It is such as turn to them (in these circumstances) that do wrong.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,