Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh.  (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)

One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

can u tell how to get rid of Bad habbit of Masturbation. because whenever i done masturbation i became emotionally depress as a result i cant do anything, neither my studies nor concentrate on anything else. after masturbating i remain in depression for about two days but from the third day i started wondering way to fulfill my desire at last on the fifth or sixth day i again masturbate. i have committed many times to get rid of it but all in vain. moreover my sexual health is declining day by day.

i am very concern about my health. i cant have a marriage at this stage of life neither my family allows me to fast the whole day. in short i dont want my family to let it know.

give me some dua or wazeefa. tell me something which is really worth in having good result.

and tell me some recipie to make up my lost health

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Answer:

How to stop masturbation?

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

It is indeed good and righteous of you that you have recognized this evil habit as displeasing to the Merciful Lord, and are trying to stay away from it. ‘Fahesha’ or indecency is one of the strongest weapons of the accursed enemy of man, the Shaitaan; who has sworn to mislead and misguide mankind from the Straight Path of Allah Subhanah.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 268:

The Shaitaan threatens you with poverty and prompts you to adopt indecency (or acts of shamelessness). Allah promiseth you His forgiveness and bounties, and Allah careth for all, and He knoweth all things.

The only thing that can stop one from acts of indecency, or intentionally disobeying any command of Allah and His Messenger (saws); is the fear and consciousness that One Day, everyone will be brought forth in the Presence of the All-Mighty Lord to give a full accounting of one’s deeds.

The first thing one needs to do, when he realizes that he has disobeyed any command of Allah and His Messenger (saws), is to immediately turn to the Merciful Lord and seek His Forgiveness and Pardon, and make a solemn covenant that he will not repeat the mistake again. When Shaitaan again tries to prompt the person to disobey the Merciful, the believers must immediately realize the play of Shaitaan, seek refuge in Allah from the accursed Shaitaan, remember the covenant he has made with His Lord, and abstain from doing any deed that will bring about the Wrath and Anger of Allah Subhanah.

Your Statement: give me some dua or wazeefa.

Unless and until one has the genuine fear of standing in the Majestic Presence of Allah Subhanah, and the sincerity of mission to abstain from doing anything that would bring forth the Wrath and Anger of the All-Mighty; the recitation and chanting of a ‘wazeefah’ alone, without the willingness to amend ones conduct, would not be beneficial.

After one has made a solemn promise to his Lord that he would not commit the mistake again, and has a genuine willingness to abide by the promise made to his Lord; he should seek constant help from the Merciful Lord to stay on the Straight Path.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 7 Surah Aaraaf verse 23:

23 They (Prophet Adam and his wife, Hawwa) said: "O our Lord! We have wronged our own souls: if Thou forgive us not, and bestow not upon us Thy mercy, we shall certainly be lost."

One of the best supplications is the dua made by Prophet Yunus (a.s.) as related by Allah Subhanah in the Holy Quran Chapter 21 Surah Anbiyaa verse 87:

"There is no god but Thou: Glory to Thee: I was indeed wrong!"

If we can only cultivate the solemn belief in ourselves that The All Knowing is watching every thing that we do, and fear the standing in His Majestic Presence on an Inevitable Day to give a full accounting of our deeds; we will strive never to transgress the boundaries laid by Allah and His Messenger (saws).

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan