Lied about molestation in past
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
I was really happy to receive your kind mail. Allah will bless you for your great works. I dont know whether you remember me I said that I am a 16 years old and my 2 uncle and my brother had Sex with me. And I was not able to say to my parents because of some family problem. Next year I am going to get engaged. I dont whether you remember me. After getting your mail I was really happy. But still I have problem that I used to talk to him (the person whom I am going to get engaged) he asked me whether I Had sex with some one .i was not able to say I lie to him I told him that I didnt have . now I am feeling guilty I said this because I know him. if I said the truth, he will not marry me. I love him this is the first time I am getting love from someone due to family problem, I only had sorrows in my life he only makes me happy . he loves me a lot but he doubts whether we will become husband and wife because He is 26 and I am 16 .he scared whether I will get some physical problem after marriage .he said to pray to god and ask Allah to makes us together I dont know what to do. I have a request please pray for us to be together I hope you will reply fast. Because I am mailing this from my friends house I hope you will reply me fast
From your love
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Lied about molestation in past
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Beloved and dear sister in Islam, there is absolutely no harm, and no sin on you if you have not told the truth to your fianc about what happened to you in the past with your uncles and your brother.
Whatever evil that happened, happened in the past; and you were completely innocent of the sin committed by your uncles and your brother, who took advantage of your innocence and age. If they do not sincerely repent and seek forgiveness from the Merciful Lord for their heinous and horrible sin, they will indeed have a very severe accounting in the Presence of Allah Subhanah on an Inevitable Day.
The principle in Islam is that if Allah Subhanah has veiled or hidden the evil done in the past in ones life; one should not go about telling everyone about the evil one has done, or the evil that was done to him/her in the past.
There is absolutely no sin upon you if you have not told the truth to your fianc about the unfortunate incidents that happened with you in the past; especially if you fear that it might effect your future relationship in the sacred bond of marriage. You should not carry any guilt for what your uncles and your brother did to you in your age of innocence; for you are absolutely innocent and free of any sin for their actions! If it is at all possible, you too should leave what happened in the past to the past; and try to concentrate on making a better future in alignment with the guidance and teachings of Allah and His Messenger (saws).
May Allah Subhanah grant you success and contentment in the life of this world, and honor you with Paradise in the Hereafter. May Allah Subhanah grant you all your good wishes and prayers if they are indeed good for you for the life of this world and the Hereafter. May Allah Subhanah make you a sabab for your husbands entry into Paradise, and make your husband a sabab for your entry into the Eternal Gardens of Bliss. May Allah Subhanah keep you and your husband-to-be in His Infinite Mercy and Protection. Ameen.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,