Married woman loves another man
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
I have to ask you a question which I could not find an answer. This is a strange story relating to my friend.
She has been married and it is been 6 months. Really her marraige was not to her mercy. It was her parents like and she agreed. She is very smart, well talented, God fearing and a nice girl. She had her own imaginations about her husband and future. But her husband was not her choice. But she tried to adjust. Her husband is not bad, but she disliked this life.
In this situation she found at her work place a smart man who was exactly her imagination. But she expressed her feelings. But this man loves her and told her that he wants to marry her. Nothing even her married life is going to withdraw him. He wants her and she is also 100 times willing to live with him. But the problem is her husband. She don`t love him but she is asking on what basis she can get divorce, what will she say him. He is a good man and loves his wife.
She tells that she sacrifised her life once for her parents and is again ready to sacrifise - but she won`t be happy in her life. And the new man in her life also loves her too much and if he gets a half positive answer he will give her a life.
I want to ask you what is the correct solution for this. Is anybody guilty in this case? How can I give my advice to her, to live with husband or to get divorced. She is too young to sacrifice her life. And also she only lived according to the words of Allh. That is why she agreed, even after a fight, to her parents in marrying to a different man of choice.
Dear Brother please advice as soon as possible, because we all are in a big confusion.
May God Bless You.
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Married woman loves another man
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah Subhanah has specifically given the right to the believing woman to choose whom she wishes to marry; thus what should have happened is that your friends parents should have taken her consent and approval prior to arranging her marriage.
Now she is in a situation where she had consented to the marriage, and her husband is a good man and loves and honors her; but now she has come across another man at her place of work who, in her opinion, fits her description of a perfect man!
Firstly, it is not legal and a grave sin in Islam for a married woman to develop such a relationship with another man; and she must seek sincere repentance from Allah Subhanah. She is already married to a good man, who loves and honors her; but she has found a new person, whom she thinks is better for her.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 216:
But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you, and that ye love a thing which is bad for you. But Allah knoweth and ye know not.
You should advise your friend to trust and fear Allah Subhanah and immediately stop her relationship with the other man, and fulfill her commitment she has made to her husband in the sacred bond of marriage in Islam.
But if your friend is absolutely convinced that she will not be able to fulfill her rights to her husband for the rest of her life; or fears that she may be inclined to the path of sin with the other man; she is free to ask her husband to divorce her, or initiate a divorce proceeding in a Shariah Court, and subsequently marry her choice.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,