Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,

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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

are we allowed to press and suck our wife`s breast during sex 

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Answer:

Forbidden Sexual acts with ones wife

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 222:They ask you about the (women’s) monthly courses. Say, “It is a state of impurity; so keep apart from the women during their monthly courses and do not approach them until they are clean. When they have cleansed themselves, then you may go to them in the manner ordained for you by Allah. Most surely Allah loves those people who refrain from evil and keep themselves pure and clean.

What we can do for you here, without going into too much detail, is list the few things that are forbidden. As is the principle with the concept of haraam in Islam, everything that which is not listed as haraam is considered legal for us.

Thus, what Allah and His Messenger have forbidden in a sexual relationship between husband and wife is:

Anal sex.

Having sexual intercourse with the woman during her menses.

Some scholars have also voiced their opinion against touching either of the partner’s sex organs with the mouth. But because nothing is specifically mentioned in the Quran and Sunnah about taking the partner’s sex organ in the mouth, the scholars have not said it is forbidden… The most they have said is that one should fear Allah and stay away from this act as it is considered impure, unclean and unhealthy.

Other than this, the husband and wife have all the liberty with regard to sex in their relationship.

Rather than list all the things which are allowed, we will try to clear a few misconception which are commonly held.

Please note again, that other than the above three things mentioned as forbidden, the partners have all the liberty in regards to sex.

There is absolutely no restriction regarding positions… lying down, sitting, standing, whatever!

There is no ‘purdah’ or veil between the husband and wife in Islam.

Touching all parts of the body is legal.

When the women is in her menses period, only her ‘private’ part is not to be touched or entered, and should be kept covered. Other than that, the partners are free to enjoy their relationship during this period.

There is absolutely no harm in touching and/or sucking of the women’s breasts before, during, or after sex; or at any time the couple wishes to do so.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan