Marrying a bohra girl against girl's parents wish
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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
assalamoalaikum , my brother in Islam, I sincerely appreciate the work that you are doing..alhamdolillah..I am a practicing Muslim and there is this Bohra girl whom I love (for the sake of Allah) and I have tried convincing her for reading the glorious quran and masha'allah , Allah (swt) has blessed her with the capability to try to understand and decipher the meaning of the holy quran.. She now agrees and believes in the oneness of Allah and understands that the faith that she has been taught since childhood is full of shirk, and bidaa.. But, in spite of her belief, she is unsure if her parents would agree to our marriage.. I am aware of the fact that our prophet (pbuh) has prohibited marrying a woman without the consent of her parents.. But in this case , when she is willing to revert to the true deen of Islam, which would be possible only if we get married.. In case her parents do not agree to our marriage, would it be considered lawful if I marry her against the wish of her parents ? ( she is willing herself to get married to me and revert to the true deen of Islam..) Also , would it be a sin on my and her part if she gets married to me(in a proper nikaah) without informing her parents and then later informs them of it.? I want to get married to her not only because I love her, but also because I feel privileged of the fact that she might come into the true deen of Islam (as Allah has blessed her with this capability) because of me..Please answer at the earliest..
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In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Brother the approval of the wali is one of the fundamental requirements for a nikah to be valid for a believing woman. In spite of the fact that the Bohras do bidaa etc., they are yet classified as Muslims.
If you love the woman, you should not deprive her of her parents love and protection. They have reared her up to be a believing woman and it is their right to have a say in the most important day of their daughters life.
Therefore brother you should approach her parents and convince them that you are the best man for their beloved daughter, and that you would cherish her and love her and look after her to the best of your ability. If you marry her without her parents wishes and approval you will be severely accountable in the just court of Allah swt on that inevitable Day wherein no injustice will be done to anyone.
Your efforts in convincing her of the truth of Al Islam is commendable, but that does not grant you the right to marry her without her parents approval. Her parents are the best judges of their daughters life partner. They are the people that love her the most on this planet. Don't make the mistake of committing this sin of inciting a woman in love to leave her parents and marry without their consent. Her reversion to the truth will remain with her and nothing can take the guidance away from her.
Make supplications to Allah swt and pray for His help and mercy. InshaAllah soon your wishes will fructify and her parents will agree to marry her to you. That would be best. You must have patience and use all means to convince her parents of your good intentions.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,
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