This might be alittle off topic. But I have just recently got married and do not know what is and isn`t taboo in Islam when it comes to sex. What can we and can`t we not do? I have been to few sites already and some say one this is wrong and then another will say that it`s ok??? Then some say anything that the both people agree to is ok...is it? *Very confused!* Is there some kind of regulations in Islam?
Sex Liberty in Islam
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 222:They ask you about the (women’s) monthly courses. Say, “It is a state of impurity; so keep apart from the women during their monthly courses and do not approach them until they are clean. When they have cleansed themselves, then you may go to them in the manner ordained for you by Allah. Most surely Allah loves those people who refrain from evil and keep themselves pure and clean.
What we can do for you here, without going into too much detail, is list the few things that are forbidden. As is the principle with the concept of haraam in Islam, everything that which is not listed as haraam is considered legal for us.
Thus, what Allah and His Messenger have forbidden in a sexual relationship between husband and wife is:
- Anal sex.
- Having sexual intercourse with the woman during her menses.
Some scholars have also voiced their opinion against touching either of the partner’s sex organs with the mouth, in the aftermath of the Monica Lewinsky/Bill Clinton scandal. But because nothing is mentioned in the Quran and Sunnah, the scholars have not said it is forbidden… The most they have said is that one should fear Allah and stay away from this act as it is considered impure, unclean and unhealthy.
Other than this, the husband and wife have all the liberty with regarding to sex in their relationship.
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said that one should not be ashamed to ask anything in Islam in search for more knowledge. Rather than list all the things which are allowed, we will try to clear a few misconception which are commonly held. If other than these, you have any particular questions or doubts regarding the sexual relationship between husband and wife, you are welcome to write back to us, and we will try our best to answer them to the best of our ability.
Please note again, that other than the above three things mentioned as forbidden, the partners have all the liberty in regards to sex.
- There is absolutely no restriction regarding positions… lying down, sitting, standing, whatever.
- There is no ‘purdah’ or veil between the husband and wife in Islam.
- Touching all parts of the body is legal.
- When the women is in her menses period, only her ‘private’ part is not to be touched or entered, and should be kept covered. Other than that, the partners are free to enjoy their relationship during this period.
And Allah Alone Knows Best.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,