Marriage with sunni: Marriage
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
Salaam waliekum brother.... i was born as a bohra....but soon realized the truth of bohras 1-2 years back and family wishes to marry me too just like other brothers and sisters to a bohra. As per my thinking and beliefs....All muslims are one....though bohras do not consider themselves among the others....my family also has the same typical bohra thinking.... i tried infact am still trying to convince them and show them the truth but they do not accept... according to bohra...bohra can marry bohra... and whom i wish to marry is sunni...he's very pious person and a true beleiver...and we know each other since a long time so what should i do know? should i go with family and marry the one who worships a human blindly? or should i go against the family and marry a believer of Allah(sw) and his messenger(SAW) alone and keep my hope with Allah that one day they will realize the truth?
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Marriage with sunni
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Sister your first and foremost worry should be to try and convince your parents and family that you have read the Noble Quran with understanding and that they should do the same. You have to be Allah swt fearing at all times and tender love and respect to your parents as is required from a Muslima.
It should not look like that since you are in love with a Sunni you have decided to become a born again Muslima. Your concern should be to save your loved ones from the Hell Fire if they do not change their convictions about the deen of truth, that is Islam.
Having said that it does not behove a true believer in Allah swt to marry against the wishes and blessings of her parents. It is one of the obligatory requirements of a marriage to gain the permission and acceptance of ones parents.
You will have to use all your powers of persuasions to convince your parents that the groom you have chosen is best for you because he will love, honor and respect you and that your deen will also be secure because he is a pious Muslim man who does not do any biddah. If your parents are not agreeing to the union only because the man is a Sunni then you have to try and humbly convince them that you will be happy and safe at the same time practice the deen as is commanded by Allah swt..
Other than that you do not have much choice from a shariah point of view. Marriage is not an obligatory act wherein obedience to your parents is strictly obligatory. You can use your relatives or parents friends to put in a favorable word on your behalf but marrying against their wishes will not bring you and your parents any peace of mind.
Always remember they brought you up with love and affection and they only want the best for you. They may be misguided but they do not mean any harm for you. So pray to Allah swt and read the Noble Book with understanding and InshaAllah you will find a way to gain your parents acceptance and blessings. May Allah swt make your trials easy for you.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is only ones. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brothers and well wishers in Islam,
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