Liberty of Sex
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Firstly many thanks for awakening our religious consious and distributing to all the knowledge of Islam by virtue of Quran by your Sabaks. My question is about the relationship between husband and wife and the liberty of sex between this relationship?, please highlight us all. How much liberty these partners have?
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Liberty of Sex
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Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 222: They ask you about the (womens) monthly courses. Say, It is a state of impurity; so keep apart from the women during their monthly courses and do not approach them until they are clean. When they have cleansed themselves, then you may go to them in the manner ordained for you by Allah. Most surely Allah loves those people who refrain from evil and keep themselves pure and clean.
What we can do for you here, without going into too much detail, is list the few things that are forbidden. As is the principle with the concept of haraam in Islam, everything that which is not listed as haraam is considered legal for us.
Thus, what Allah and His Messenger have forbidden in a sexual relationship between husband and wife is: Anal sex.
Having sexual intercourse with the woman during her menses.
Some scholars have also voiced their opinion against touching either of the partners sex organs with the mouth, in the aftermath of the Monica Lewinsky/Bill Clinton scandal. But because nothing is mentioned in the Quran and Sunnah, the scholars have not said it is forbidden The most they have said is that one should fear Allah and stay away from this act as it is considered impure, unclean and unhealthy.
Other than this, the husband and wife have all the liberty with regarding to sex in their relationship.
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said that one should not be ashamed to ask anything in Islam in search for more knowledge. Rather than list all the things which are allowed, we will try to clear a few misconception which are commonly held. If other than these, you have any particular questions or doubts regarding the sexual relationship between husband and wife, you are welcome to write back to us, and we will try our best to answer them to the best of our ability.
Please note again, that other than the above three things mentioned as forbidden, the partners have all the liberty in regards to sex.
There is absolutely no restriction regarding positions lying down, sitting, standing, whatever.
There is no purdah or veil between the husband and wife in Islam.
Touching all parts of the body is legal.
When the women is in her menses period, only her private part is not to be touched or entered, and should be kept covered. Other than that, the partners are free to enjoy their relationship during this period.
And Allah Alone Knows Best.
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