Wife refuses constant sex

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Salam bhai, i have a question about my sex life me and my husband having a very good time in over life, but the most of the time when he ask me for intercourse i refuse and sometime during intercourse when i reach my orgasm i stop intercourse despite of this that he is not reach his orgasm, he never complaint me he is very good person the question is to do these things is i am under the law of shariah o can i do this there is no problem please tell me what a islam say about this. thanks.

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Wife refuses constant sex 

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

The believing men and women whom Allah Subhanah has blessed to be bonded in the sacred institution of marriage, have certain rights towards each other in their marriage. And one of the biggest rights of marriage is that the couple may enjoy conjugal relations with each other to their heart’s desire. Unless the wife has a legal and valid Shariah reason for not allowing the husband to have intercourse with her (menses, post child-birth menstruation, while in the state of ‘ehraam’ for pilgrimage, while fasting in Ramadan, etc.), there are no conditions or circumstances when either the husband or the wife may refuse the invitation of the other.

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3257        Narrated by Talq ibn Ali

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "When a man calls his wife to satisfy his desire she must go to him even if she is occupied at the oven."

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 4.460         Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Messenger of Allah (saws) said, "If a husband calls his wife to his bed (i.e. to have sexual relation) and she refuses and causes him to sleep in anger, the Angels will curse her till morning."

Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.122         Narrated by Abu Huraira

The Prophet (saws) said, "If a woman spends the night deserting her husband's bed (does not sleep with him), then the Angels send their curses on her till she comes back (to her husband)."

Abu Dhar al-Ghafari reported: ‘The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: “there is a reward for you [even] in sex with your wife."’ The companions asked: ‘O Messenger of Allah (saws) is there a reward if one satisfies his passion?" He (saws) said: "Do you know that if he satisfies it unlawfully he has taken a sin upon himself?  Likewise, if he satisfies it lawfully, he is rewarded."

Related by Ahmad and Muslim.

Sister it is your duty to accede to your husband's request every time and not make it difficult and embarrassing for him ever. You should also allow him to reach his orgasm. You will be severely held accountable even though he is a good man and does not demand too much.

 Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is only ones. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brothers and well wishers in Islam,

 

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