Mehr: jee ye meri dosri shadi hai phelay bhi jo haq mehar
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Asalam o alikum,
mayra naam hai meri kuch dino main shadi honay wali hai mayra aap say aik sawal hai wo ye ke shariye hissab say haqmehar kitna hona chahiye ab . plz kia aap mujhe rupees main bata saktey hain kia ? acha aik aur baat jo nikah naama main talaq ki jo condition hoti hain usko fill karwana zaroori hota hai ya nahi ?
jee ye meri dosri shadi hai phelay bhi jo haq mehar tha na wo bhi mujhe nahi mila hai ab jahan ho rahi hai wo sirf mayre aur uskey darmiyan main he sub decied hona hai isliye main chahti hon jo bhi shariye hissab say ban ta hai aap mujhe bata dayen . main apkey reply ka w8 kar rahi hon.
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Sister the mehr should be an amount which can be easily given by the grooms party. You should not accept a small sum and make a mockery of this law which has been instituted to protect the women. It should be substantial at the same time affordable by the groom.
The mehr should normally be taken upfront as afterwards the groom might not be willing to give easily.
In the nikah namah you can dictate the conditions you desire in a reasonable way. Even the divorce condition you can dictate according to your desire, whether you want to retain the authority or give it to your husband to be. Whatever conditions you feel comfortable you should mention clearly in the nikah namah so that there is no confusion or mis-understanding at a later date.
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