Is love a medicine?: I am a psychiatry patient.around 9 years back i fell in love with a girl
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I am a male muslim of 23 years old. I am a psychiatry patient. around 9 years back i fell in love with a girl. but i think she dont even know or remember me. but i was madly in love with her even now. I would have even given my life for her. It happened while i was in my ninth grade. i had small affairs in between where i liked girls but of none of them liked me. This made me in more tensed. The worst part is i am still in love with the first love of my life, the one which happened 9 years ago. My senses went really mad when i came to know that i will never get her or any girl i like. Like that, my parents took me to a psychiatry doctor. i am under treatment. but still i cant forget that girl. I am not so handsome so i doubt i will get a girl of my like. my parents are also sad because of me. i don't know what should i do. sometimes i even think about doing suicide, but i know it is haram and it will only lead you to hell, so i will never suicide. i spoke to one of my friend and we discussed about, and we both came to a conclusion that i am needing of a girl who will love me with true heart forever. it is the only best and possible cure than the medicine. what is your opinion? i don't know how to approach to my parents for saying that i want to marry. but indirectly i spoke about this, so they said, u finish your studies by one more year and rest one year complete the course of medicine. so what they meant is they will get me married after 2 years. but i know course of medicine will take more than one year. because these psychiatry medicines has a complete different method of treatment. firstly they give high dosage of medicine then they slowly reduce the dosage. we cant stop the medication suddenly in between, if we stop then it becomes more problem. and if i am getting married after 2 years i will not have peace of mind. so please let me know what should i do?
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Both came to a conclusion that i am needing of a girl who will love me
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Brother if you want to get married it is important that you should be capable of taking the responsibility of bringing up a family. If you are yet studying and not earning you cannot expect your parents to bear the cost of your married life. You and your friend are not qualified to make a judgement in this case.
If you are a psychiatric patient then you need special care. You should put your trust in your parents guidance and wait for them to choose your spouse. It is important to find the right woman for you who will take care of you. You have to understand that it is not easy to find such a woman. Your parents must already be on the look out for your bride. Maybe you can get an elder or family friend to speak to your parents to expedite their efforts in looking for your bride.
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